64 hexagrams, mapped by situation · Hexagram 38 · Kui

Kui: You are the same, and it still looks different

This page describes a situation. It gives no verdict. The number, trigrams and inner hexagram are all checkable.
Answer first (self-contained)Kui (hexagram 38, 离 over 兑) describes this kind of situation: You are the same, and it still looks different. It does not predict anything and it does not decide for you. It does one thing: it makes visible which dynamic you are currently inside, so you can recognise whether you are in it. There are three ways to check. First, the situation itself: You are the same, and it still looks different. Second, three checkable facts below (the number, the two trigrams, and the inner hexagram). Third, the three steps at the bottom, and whether you have done any of them.

What situation this is

You and them want the same thing. You are using the same kind of method. To them you are different anyway, so you have been explaining why you do it your way for years. You explained again. They are still at the same understanding. The difference was never in the explanation.

Checkable facts

Number
Hexagram 38 of 64
Name
睽 (Kui)
Trigrams
离 over 兑
Inner hexagram
The internal force is 既济
Reversed
Reversed hexagram: Jian
Inverted
Inverted hexagram: Ren Jia
Palace
艮 (四世)
Book
下经
Structure
离上兑下
Seasonal phase
-
Law attached
同构 (secondary: 感应)
Position
Previous Ren Jia, next Jian

How it differs from the neighbours

Previous hexagram Ren Jia (hexagram 37) describes: You have no rules, so it rests on you.
Next hexagram Jian (hexagram 39) describes: You cannot move, so you turn back.
The inner hexagram (internal force) The inner hexagram is 既济. The situation on this page is what is visible; Ji Ji is already completed, and what completed has stopped exchanging with what it sits beside. is what has been going on inside it. They are different layers, and reading one as the other is the usual mistake.

Three steps you can take today

  1. Judge by the exchange, not the volume. Without exchange, no amount of loudness gets you in sync.
  2. Write down your last explanation and what the other person did afterwards.
  3. How many times have I explained this, and what happened after each time?

Do just this today Today, stop explaining once. Do one thing that shows it instead.

Does this sound like you

How this path works, and where it breaksKui says same goal, different direction, and Ji Ji inside it is what happens when two finished things stop exchanging. So the next step is checking whether anything is actually moving between you, and not whether you are understood.
Inner hexagram: the internal forceJi Ji is already completed, and what completed has stopped exchanging with what it sits beside.
What this hexagram does not doThis does not tell you to give up on talking. It only says that Kui is a misunderstanding, and some misunderstandings are not solved by talking.
Most likely misuseThe easiest misuse is reading it as a communication problem. Kui is the same goal with a different direction. That is not something more talking fixes.

Sources for this page

Original text (judgment and Tuan commentary)
I Ching, hexagram 38
上火下泽，同而异；睽不是对立，是误会。
Data source
周易深度解析与蒸馏_v3 · 卦义表
Number, trigrams, inner hexagram, reversed, inverted, palace and seasonal phase all come from the original text and can be checked.
Who wrote the situation descriptions
Original to this project
Situation names, signals, today's step, micro-action and the core question were written for this project. They are not from the original text and are not an authoritative reading of it.
Related entries on this page (18)Kuii keep explaining why i do it differentlythey think i am strange for no reasonwe want the same thing and they still misread me一直在解兑同构家人怎么解释才有用总被误解怎么办感应我说的是既济睽离第38卦该不该继续解释蹇
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